When Close Is Not Close Enough?

How can it be so that a guy can blow your mind in the dance floor and you can sense a huge amount of chemistry between you two, but the moment the dance ends that all is gone? Sometimes the dance connection can be so strong it can make you confused and think that there is something more than that, but normally this is just an illusion. "What happens in the dance floor stays in the dance floor", Mr A. always says, and I have to agree with him. Many dancers I have talked about this subject with say that they wouldn't even realize if someone was actually keen on them if this happened in a dance floor or a dance party.

Social dancing can really mess your attitude towards flirting. Flirting is an essential part of many couple dances, and you have to be able to flirt with your dance partner to make the dance great. What also confused me in the beginning, was the physical closeness. I think this has to do with Finish culture where we are used to a large personal space. If the opposite sex came inside that personal space, you could interpret is as an expression of interest. This rule doesn't apply in the dance floor, not even if your dance partner is getting really close to you. It is just a part of the dance.

It can be quite the opposite too. You can meet an attractive dancer with who you click immediately but when he takes you for a dance it is not working at all. I am just asking: why does it work this way? It would make much more sense that dance floor wouldn't differ from non-dance floor, but no!

Realizing this fact has made also me to think dancing as a neutral zone where nothing can happen and any kind of signals have no meaning what so ever. On the other hand, this makes things simple: dancing is dancing and there is nothing more to that. What happens in the dance floor stays in the dance floor.